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GOD SPEED! ~ You Be Right, I’ll Be Happy

Posted by on Jul 11, 2011 in General, Happiness, Positive Thinking, Relationships, Self Help, Self Love, Spirituality

GOD SPEED! ~ You Be Right, I’ll Be Happy

That coined phrase seems to re-occur often in my coaching.   Seems us humans are so invested in being “right” that we will use our entire energy supply trying to make someone else acknowledge our way of thinking.

It’s like beating your head against a wall – time and time again, because the other person is usually invested in convincing YOU that THEY are “right” as well. And so it goes…..

When should a person say, “you know what?….go ahead and be “right”, I’m going to go be happy!”?  We have no idea what others “human experience” agenda’s are, so why are we arrogant enough to want to change them, to seemingly make our own ideas and beliefs about life “right”?

The answer to the above questions would be, whenever it is you are ready to BE HAPPY!

Sure, you can share your perceptions about what is appropriate behavior for YOU, and what you feel is okay to have in YOUR “space”, but beyond that….Quit trying to change other people. If what they are doing, or not doing, saying, or not saying isn’t feeling good to you, than say to them “GOD SPEED! – Go live your life the way you see fit, make your bed and then lay in it, I’ll do the same, however, it just isn’t going to work for me to have you in my space anymore”.

The problem most people face is that they don’t want to have to give up anything… not their perceived comforts, their perceived friendships and most of all their NEED TO BE “RIGHT”!  There’s a feeling of “by God, if I have to tow the line, they better do the same!”, rather than just letting them be and then living in accordance with what makes them feel good.

It’s ironic that we cling so tightly to the illusion of what we think we have, or want to have, rather than WHAT we actually do have.

I have to admit, this comes up for me in my coaching.  Especially with people who I’m close to.  I need to practice what I preach. I sometimes get so invested in wanting people to love themselves at the level they need to in order to experience freedom, happiness and joy – all of which awaits them, that I sometimes feel the need to be “right” and I hang on so tight to giving all that I’ve got, that I end up depleted.  How’s that for the whole “mirroring” affect.  I want to help people “be happy” but ultimately I can only offer tools and different perspectives to help.  To be happy, is their choice.

I know that I need to give all I got, with love in my heart and then not be attached to the outcome.  Also, to give freely the tools and insights to help someone choose to become empowered, but then release attachment to how they use them.  At the end of the day, we all have to CHOOSE to love our-selves enough to let go. We have to find the courage to say “GOD SPEED” to people and things in our lives that are not in alignment with what we want to see for ourselves.  It’s a challenge to stay out of judgment of those things that we “let go” of and stay centered in our own consciousness when it comes to being connected to our Source. That’s the space where life becomes easy, joyful and feels effortless.

Thanks for letting me share!  This blog literally flowed effortlessly out of me, as my own experience of this has been presenting itself and mirroring back to me.  I know this is yet another opportunity to “let go” and unfold even deeper into the greatest expression of myself!

I love life!  I love my relationships because they teach me so much about myself.  I’m forever grateful for the absolute knowing of the Source that flows through me…that IS me. My heart swells with expansion and gratitude!

Blessings to all of you out there and….. “GOD SPEED” and BE HAPPY!!

Namaste!

Linda Nuss
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